How To Get Women ... Both Ways - Part II

This page is a continuation of How To Get Women - Part I

Core Difference No.2

Women aren't hung up on being consistent.

 Closely aligned with Core Difference No.1 is the fact that being consistent is not as important to women as it is to men. This of course goes hand-in-hand with using their feelings as a frame of reference. Feelings change and therefore a woman's outlook on something can change as well. This is something that women are quite comfortable with.

Men on the other hand are more prone to form an opinion on something and then stand rigidly by that opinion even if it no longer serves them to do so. This is because they put a higher value on consistency than they do on whatever else happens to be at stake.

And what practical seductive application does this little piece of knowledge have? Men who are consistently successful with women know that they need to be flexible and roll with the punches a little. They know that women are apt to change their minds on various things – such as whom they find attractive -  so they're not easily put off by an initial negative reaction. By the same token they don’t rigidly hold to an opinion if doing so means the fun is completely sucked out of the conversation and its sexual potential completely squandered. They'll change tack and keep the tone light and not get hung up on labouring their point.

Core Difference No. 3

Women aren't as impressed with the big show

When men are looking to impress each other they will quite often put on "the show". You know what it looks like: the chest goes out and they then go on and on about themselves and their exploits. Now this impresses some men and it doesn't impress others. But what I can guarantee you is that it sure-as-hell doesn't impress women.

In fact going on about yourself is more likely to result in her trying to take you down (if she's that way inclined) or becoming bored with you than it will in you impressing her.

Once again there's a frame of reference issue here: men believing that impressive to one means impressive to all. The woman however is more likely to be asking herself "what's he attempting to hide with all this bragging about his exploits?"

 The man who regularly seduces women will do so because he is confident and has personal authority. He doesn't need to back up his authority with stories about himself; he just naturally is authorative.

If you get that there are fundamental differences between men and women and that this necessitates a flexibility in both your attitude and approach when attempting to seduce them, then you will have taken a vital step towards "getting" them.

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