How To Get Women ... Both Ways - Part I
One of the more interesting questions I get asked is "how can I get women?" to which I always shoot back my own clarifying question: "Do you mean 'get' as in 'understand' or 'get' as in 'get with'?" Now, almost without exception the person asking the question means how can they "get with" women but what is interesting is that if they understood the answer to the first question (understand women) then they wouldn't even need to ask the second question because the answer would become self apparent. So let's have a closer look at the first question and talk of it in terms of understanding women and how in doing that you will find that "getting with" women suddenly doesn't seem so problematic. I sometimes get scoffed at when I use a generic phrase like "understanding women" as if "women" were some homogenous blob with a set of detailed instructions attached, instead of a lot of individuals which is of course what they are. But the fact remains that they all have two arms and two legs, are more connected with their emotions than is the case with men, and will also prioritise things differently to men. Certainly when it comes down to dealing with individuals, individual characteristics will come to the fore but that doesn’t negate the fact that there are some universal traits that apply to the vast majority of females - the understanding of which will lessen the "mystery" that some men continue to ascribe to women. The key reason that a lot of men don't understand women is that they continue to look at them and even judge them through a male frame of reference. What I propose to do is point out some of the core differences between men and women and then show you how an understanding of those differences will better enable you to attract and seduce women. Core Difference No. 1Men will look to the logic of a situation to access its truth whereas women will look to how they feel to find its truth. Truth, like everything else, is relative. Whoever proclaims something as true only does so because it matches up against a pre-determined frame of reference. A person may have an encyclopaedia as his frame of reference and will therefore judge anything that he reads in that encyclopaedia as being "true." Someone else may have her University professor as a frame of reference and will hold anything that professor says as being "true." At a high level, most men will adjudge something as being "true" if it all comes together logically. Women however don't place as much value on logic. This is not to say that they ignore it but they don’t treat it as the "be all and end all". They are more likely to assess how they feel about something and then use that as their barometer of truth. And how does all this translate into "getting with" women. Quite simply, the man who produces good feeling in a woman is more likely to score with her than the man who presents his wares logically. I've seen and heard of it time and time again: good looking men with steady jobs and steadier personalities who aren't getting the women they want because they present their credentials as if they by themselves were enough. The problem is their frame of reference. They've heard women bemoan the fact that there are no "decent" guys around and they assume that all they need to do therefore is present a model of decency and that these same women will flock to them. This is taking a logical approach and it's success will always be limited. The man who is attuned to the female frame of reference however, and concentrates on making her feel good irrespective of what credentials he does or doesn't have, will always have a greater chance of getting her because … he gets her. To read the rest of this topic go to How To Get Women - Part II
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